Today I bring you a rather unusual sort of guest post on this blog. Yesterday I wrote an open letter to the Live31 Movement and they kindly responded, as well as took me up on my offer to use this space as an additional place for them to share their views. You can see the original response on Facebook, here.
How we’re handling things today is also a bit different. I am producing their response below. Below that, I am including my response to that response as it appeared on Facebook. Please note that, as I stated yesterday, after this post I am essentially done with this issue directly. I shall not post on it again. Rather, I am leaving it to you all, readers on both sides, to have a productive conversation in the comments about this. To that end, I shall not be commenting on this post unless a comment needs clarification or is directly addressed to me. Otherwise, I am leaving it up to Alex and the rest of the Live31 team to comment as they see fit. As always, derogatory comments shall be deleted on either side. (For instance, yesterday someone called someone else something fairly foul and it was directed at someone who disagreed with me. I show no prejudice to people disagreeing or agreeing with me, if the comment is rude and does not seek to discuss the issue, it goes. So, friends on both sides, please keep that in mind. I have a pretty wide filter, but don’t tempt me.)
—From Live31—
To Preston Yancey and anyone who has read his blog and has concerns with our movement, here is a response to his open letter. We want to encourage thought and debate on this page. We have nothing to hide, and wanted it to be known that we do not ignore our critics. If you have not yet read his blog and would like to do so, it is attached. The full text of our response is as follows.
Dear Preston,
Thank you for your concern. Constructive criticism is always welcome and above all you have offered the most well thought out dissent we have read to this point. We want to address by answering each of your points specifically starting with the original post.
First post entitled, This One’s for the Sisters
Indeed, God does call some women to be celibate. There are many women in the Bible who have made unbelievable stands for God without ever being married. Furthermore, we made a firm declaration that we as men are seeking Proverbs 31 women. This said we are not calling all women to live Proverbs 31. We are however saying that the women that we each want to marry must be this type of woman. The Bible admonishes us to do this through the words of King Lemuel to his sons and is clearly supposed to be an instruction for us just as the rest of proverbs offers us simple maxims for living a more full life dedicated to God. God indeed is bigger than Proverbs 31, but we never said otherwise—and we never required or admonished anyone to like this page that wasn’t called to. LIVE31 is for those who believe they are called to a Biblical marriage and are poised to live as Biblical wives or husbands.
Second post entitled, Sparks Fly Up
To begin, I believe that this title unfairly dramatizes our brief exchange on twitter and sensationalizes our response.
We apologize for such a brief and incomplete response to your post. It was unprofessional to brush off your comments in that way and we are sorry for that. The amount of traffic directed to our post on Facebook and twitter are unbelievable which makes it difficult to respond to everyone.
The page does not implore all women to live Proverbs 31, only those who are committed to romantic relationships. However, saying the Proverbs 31 woman is a fiction is a personal interpretation. The Proverbs 31 woman is a model: a model of virtuous married life. She is a fiction insomuch as the Victoria’s Secret model is a fiction—they are both thoroughly unattainable: just as no one could be as beautiful as the women on the fashion show without the aid of photoshop, creative camera angles, and sometimes cosmetic surgery—so is the Proverbs 31 woman, and we encourage dedicated Christian women seeking marriage (not all Christian women) to imitate this model to the best of their ability. We believe it is not unfair to ask women to imitate Biblical models, as Christ is a Biblical model is by every accord to be imitated, as you say in your post—we believe that the Proverbs 31 woman fears God before carrying out the tasks listed in Proverbs 31, and accordingly glorifies the Lord with those tasks.
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